WANT A THERAPIST WHERE YOU CAN PLOP DOWN ON THE COUCH WITHOUT WORRYING ABOUT WHETHER THEY “GET IT?”
There’s this tension – where you want your therapist to be at a certain level of comfort and knowledge when working with you. They need to “get it.” And yet, it’s not lost on you that there are as many LGBTQ experiences as there are people. Also, being part of the queer community is just one aspect of who you are.
So what is it you really need? Safety, right? You need to know that you are safe to be you….fully who you are, regardless of your affectional, sexual, or romantic orientation. Regardless of your gender identity or expression. Regardless of your fluidity. Regardless of what you look like when you walk in the door or what kind of day you're having.
Regardless of how far in or out of the closet you are.
You need to be able to come to therapy and be who you are and not have to educate your therapist on the basics. You also want your therapist to be open to understanding your unique experiences. You need to know that we understand that living in Texas and being a part of the queer community has its own “special” complications. Yee-haw!
You need someone who understands marginalization. Who understands oppression. And yet won’t make assumptions about your actual experiences.
Is this resonating with you?
WE GET IT. AND WE’RE WILLING TO LEARN.
We want to know your story. We want to understand all the moving parts of your life and how they impact why you’re even seeking therapy in the first place. We know that being LGBTQ+ is just one part of who you are among all that you are managing in life.
Feeling a little nervous?
It’s normal to be a little apprehensive about starting therapy. You’ve lived a life that has conditioned you to be on alert. What if they don’t get it? What if they pathologize me? Didn’t being gay used to be a mental diagnosis? (Yes, it did, and thank goodness that has changed!)
You might feel alone in your journey. Maybe you’re just starting to explore your identity or make sense of your experiences. Perhaps your family is non-affirming. You might fear that your emerging identity might preclude you from your current relationship. You might even feel some “internalized homophobia” – culturally imposed negative feelings about being LGBTQ+– and you might feel conflicted about wanting to own your identity while also experiencing shame around it.
All of these feelings are totally normal. Although things are slowly changing, we still live in a culture where there are clear and painful messages about being LGBT, which is why LGBT affirmative therapy is so important.
We can help you with:
Exploring your sexual, romantic, or affectional orientation
Exploring your gender identity
Coming out to yourself, your loved ones, your friends, your workplace
Navigating the complications of dating
Exploring cultural oppression
Exploring how you may have been harmed or rejected by religious or religious people
Navigating holidays, weddings, and events with non-affirming family members and others
LGBTQ couples counseling
Poly and non-monogamous relationship counseling
Queer, transgender, lesbian, and gay therapy
YOU ARE A MULTI-FACETED PERSON.
At Concrete Roses Life Center, we do therapy within the framework of intersectionality. We believe that your various identities – your ethnicity, age, gender, affectional orientation….the list goes on and on…are to be understood within their relationships with one another. We want to know what identities are important to you and how your life experiences are impacted by them (and vice-versa).
Exploring the different facets of what makes you – you – will help you to better navigate your life. In giving those different parts of yourself the honor that they deserve, you can continue the process of healing and moving forward with the life you want to live.