When your relationship began, everything seemed so perfect. You recall holding hands while driving down the road. You spoke for hours, craving for more. You pinch yourself to know it wasn’t a dream. You felt united in ways that you never imagined possible. Emotionally, mentally, and physically – you two were on fire! You eagerly planned for your fate, and life together felt unstoppable.
Somewhere along the way, something altered. Now everything he or she says irritates you. Their quirks that you used to find attractive are now a complete turn-off. Every conversation is tied with conflict and confusion. Why is everything so tense? It seems like that connection terminated, and you don’t know how to get it back.
Sometimes you ignore it and become immune to it all. After all, what gain will you have sitting around and critiquing the relationship that you’ve invested so much of your life in? However, late at night, when you’re having difficulty sleeping, your brain awakens you, bothering you with questions...
Why does it seem like we are strangers? What happened? Am I going to end up alone again? Can this relationship be saved?
People evolve… AND SO DO RELATIONSHIPS
It is normal to feel lost and even unprepared for the complications of relationships with others. We like stability and consistency. However, people change. You are not the same person you were when you two met and neither are they. We don’t always realize how different we are from way back when. This often means that relationships need a little re-calibrating.
Of course, you are grieving your relationship as it has shifted. Humans are built for relationships, for sharing ourselves with others. We want to see and be seen. And yet we are all different. We come from different backgrounds, have different experiences, and we learn to love in different ways. We all want our connections with our loved ones to feel seamless and natural and we often don’t understand when relationships don’t work out that way.
We begin by learning about you. How do you approach others and how do you understand and communicate with others? What works for you and what doesn’t? Getting to know more about yourself can open up worlds of information about your interactions with others. You can learn to identify what makes you feel connected with others and what makes you shut down. Through exploring your relationship patterns, you can identify ways in which you contribute to your dynamics with your loved ones.
I’m not the problem. I need to figure out how to get through to someone. How can I get them to change?
I’m not the issue. I need to understand how to get through to someone else. How can I make them change? The most critical thing about flourishing relationships is accepting that the only person you have authority over is yourself. As much as you might believe that your relationship would be fine if only someone else would change, you have come here because you are probably already conscious of the valuable time and energy you’ve lost waiting for that to happen. By learning about your patterns and adjusting your approach, the entire dynamic can shift.
I'm not the issue.I need to understand how to get through to someone else.How can I make them change?
You may be seeking support in making significant decisions for your life. We’re here to support you. We are not here to give you commands or tell you what you should do, but we can help you explore your options and find the best process that works best. When considering a life change such as ending a relationship, this can be a big decision, and you owe it to yourself to give yourself as much time and space as you require to explore your feelings, needs, and dreams for your way of living.
You couldn’t possibly understand what I’ve been through or help me.
Those are all legitimate questions and not uncommon for people to ask when they think about seeing a therapist. You might be feeling incredibly vulnerable and uneasy about sharing such an important area of yourself with a professional.
Our staff members have experience working with people dealing with complicated relationships and struggling with important decisions. According to your relationship difficulties, there may be many factors like past or current trauma or abuse, cultural identity factors, or other mental health issues. Our qualified and experienced therapists will collaborate with you to develop a treatment plan that best fits your needs.
You can Heal...IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Couples often explore couples counseling and marriage counseling. At Concrete Roses Life Center, we approach couples' issues with a holistic perspective. We will help you examine your relationship style, communication method, and the dynamics connecting you and your partner. Your therapist will gather a thorough background of your relationship and collaborate with you and your partner to obtain recommendations that suit your unique situation.