DO YOU FEEL HAUNTED BY CHILDHOOD TRAUMA IN YOUR PAST?
You feel you can’t trust anybody, and presently you feel alone. You’ve thought about speaking up – or sharing your story – but you’re worried about what others might think. Will they believe me? Will they think it’s my fault? You assure yourself you’re just overreacting…over and over again…and time ticks go on, leaving you alone with your thoughts. Nobody seems to understand.
Life sucks when the people who you think care for you, protect you and look after you do a less than a noble job. Perhaps they were even the ones who hurt you in some manner. Either way, you were left vulnerable with nowhere to turn for so long that it feels challenging to turn to someone now. After all, who can I trust?
All you were left to conclude back then – and even now – is What’s wrong with me? Maybe I deserved it? Perhaps I’m just an awful person. Kids have to make sense of their worlds somehow. And when bad things happen to them, they don’t have the mental capacity to think: Hey, that’s not right – what is wrong with you? Instead, they conclude that they are the problem, and the seeds of shame set in. It must be me. I’m just a terrible person.
Does this sound familiar? Are you considering seeing a therapist or counselor who specializes in trauma?
YOU ABSOLUTELY CAN TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE; YOU ARE NOT CRAZY
Feeling like you are crazy is a common reaction from traumatic stress? The trauma can be so complex to comprehend that telling ourselves we must be crazy is a way of coping with the strain of it. If I'm mad, then maybe the thing that happened wasn't so bad – it's just me. Well, what if you're not crazy at all?
You have been in survival mode for an extended period that it now feels normalized. You're used to being on the edge that your body has grown accustomed to carrying stress. Stress can do some weird things to our bodies and state of mind. Some of our symptoms will be GI issues, stomach pains, or nausea. Some individuals will hold tension in their shoulders, neck, and back. The majority of people suffer from insomnia, headaches, and nightmares. It's a normal tendency for our bodies to react to the traumatic stress that we've suffered one way or another. These signs are our body's way of yearning for our attention. Is your body screaming for you to pay attention to it?
What does it feel like to listen to your body when it cries out for help? It's no reason to feel shameful for our bodies responding in the way they respond to traumatic stress. When you stop and tend to your physical pain, we give ourselves the chance to validate and heal our emotional distress. There are hope and light to healing pain.
What is it like not to feel mercy and whims of outside circumstances? Being planted with your feet into the ground rather than being carried away, unwillingly is the key. Imagine taking back control…and it may be for the first time. Challenge yourself to imagine the possibility of identifying the desires, needs, and emotions and then asserting them to others without evading away in dismay and helplessness. Challenge to believe that you can have meaningful relationships and pursue your goals. There is hope for you to adjust your life trajectory from feeling lonely and helpless to empowered and confident. Therapy for childhood trauma helps you create safety within your life, heal from the pain you carry, and connect in more purposeful ways to yourself and others.
Indeed, you can’t change the past. You can change how the past impacts who you are and the choices you make moving forward within life. As you heal from your past, you can disentangle from negative patterns and feelings that resulted from your trauma. Therapy can support you to enhance the adult perspective you have and to enhance your coping skills. This empowers you with prospects that you didn’t and couldn’t have had when the trauma occurred. Therapy allows you to make new meaning in your past narrative as you push forward with healing and connection.
It’s a horrible feeling to think a lot is fuming inside of you, and if you allowed yourself to feel it, you might not be able to stop it. It’s a common fear that is told in therapy. The honest truth is that our bodies cannot express that depth of emotion for very long. It will dissipate. Your counselor can help you learn to communicate your feelings and connect with your feelings while also developing coping abilities to handle your emotions and your body’s emotional pain signs. You will acquire grounding techniques to soothe when you feel intensified. You’ll discover the early signs that generate when you are holding an intense feeling to manage your feelings adequately. These skills are available to you. You will be in the driver’s seat of managing your emotions rather than being at their mercy.
You can heal from your childhood wounds AND RECLAIM YOUR LIFE
At Concrete Roses Life Center, we treat traumatic stress from a holistic viewpoint. Your therapist will administer a thorough assessment of your history, symptoms, and how your trauma affects you now. The theapisst will collaborate with you to formulate a customized treatment plan to fit your needs and address how trauma influences your emotions, mind, and body.